1. There are a lot of books at the library. Seems like an understatement, but I don't think you get a firm grasp of just how many books there are until you stop looking for just the ones you want and start putting up every book that needs to be reshelved. Then, when you stop and think about it, you realize how many people's hopes and dreams line the shelves--I'm an author myself, and I can't even imagine any of my stuff getting published, let alone people actually reading it. There are a lot of dreams tied up in all those books.
2. Everyone has something to say about everything. Go to any section screaming for advice--weddings, marriages, divorces, adolescence, child raising, being sexually satisified (in your marriage or otherwise), health, weight loss, religion, philosophy, politics, theories of government (and those are just the ones I thought of off the top of my head)--and there are five thousand different people who all have something to say about why they have finally gotten it right where thosuands of others have failed. After looking at several books, I came to the conclusion (realization?) that pretty much, you just have to wing it. I don't think anyone really knows what they're doing, and if you do, then you probably need to place yourself somewhere where you don't know what's going on. Take marriage. Man, the idea of that can be pretty freakin scary--I'm supposed to pick only one person to spend the rest of my life with, and I have to make it withstand work, home, friends, not friends, maybe school, children, parents, siblings, in-laws, and not even mentioning the everyday pressures of life? That seems like a sucky choice to force somebody to make; but at the same time, it's like it's something that you have to do. And you better not screw it up, buddy. Everyone has their own opinion on how to make it work.
But after reading a couple of books (sorry, I get bored when I'm straightening shelves for two hours), I realized: All I can do is wing it. Yes, I want to get married, but not for the reason I listed above (which is how I used to view the whole marriage thing, once upon a time). It's kind of like--well, I gave up on the quasi-marriage idea that I used to hold on to, and now it seems more like something you do because you actually want to spend the rest of your life with someone, not because you just have to suck it up and pick somebody as a rite of passage or something. (I should probably add: This is only my personal view of it; I doubt that everybody thinks the same way I do. So this ramble is all highly personalized to me.) So ... yeah. Still want to get married. A lot of pressure is off, because it's more like, I want to spend the rest of my life with this person--isn't marriage how you formally go about doing that? So yes.
3. Did I mention that there are a lot of books in the library? ...
Actually, that's about it ... yeah.
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I'd say the library is a good place to learn things.
also you made my brain, well, not quite explode, but maybe sizzle a little bit...
I guess I had never actually viewed marriage as something you should embark upon BECAUSE of another person..
for intance you wouldn't go out and buy some land and have a farm if you had never farmed before and weren't interested in it....well some people would, say because it was "the thing to do" at the time..so what you do is find the smallest area you can, and work it as little as you have to, to try to do it in the least painful way.
Kinda how marriage is promoted--you have to do it, so try to find someone you don't mind so much. Rather than, here is someone I love, and want to be with more than anything, so yes I want to get married. how did people get to get it backwards? yes I want to get married, because it's the thing to do, so now I just have to find someone to marry.
....yeah I dunno. seems pretty obvious all put out like that...but not really.
yep.
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